http://www.love-tactics.com/broken-hearted/ You, too, can escape the confines of the broken hearted. en-us Mon, 07 Nov 2005 09:36:37 EST Mon, 07 Nov 2005 09:36:37 EST Weblog Editor 2.0 Find Love in A Broken Hearted World Well, I got a bad liver and a broken heart, yeah/ I drunk me a river since you tore me apart,' sings Tom Waits in his 'Bad Liver and a Broken Heart.' Are you feeling his pain, sharing it? One thing they say about the broken hearted, is that much of the pain resonates from feeling discarded and perhaps you are looking for someone to say the magic thing to you that is going to make it all go away. As if there were an "easy button" for matters of the heart. Except that can't happen. Healing heartache comes in stages. You've just got to go through the process and know that it will not last forever. The bright side is that we always come out of situations like these with an increased awareness of who we are and what we really want and need out of a partner. What you can do is concentrate on yourself and getting better. You can shout out and laugh and cry. It's alright. Perfectly inappropriate behavior is acceptable. Do you have a good support group? Do you have some friends and family to be around? As long as you're not milking it for all it's worth like Sarah Jessica Parker's character Carrie did when breaking up with the flavor of the month in her serial monogamous existence. So just remember, your friends and family will commiserate while you are broken hearted, but give them some breathing room. Give yourself Permission Sure, like take an odd night off from bashing or wistfully reminiscing about your ex for their benefit. This is good time for you to spend by yourself, regaining the clarity and focus you need to pull your aching heart together. Engaging in physical labor or activities is often helpful. Throw darts. Go for it. Don't try to be precise and root for high scores, but rather, throw those mothers like your life depended on it. Try to split the cork of the board with the velocity of your throw. Remind yourself, in between, that you won't be broken hearted forever. You will not let another person do this to you again. You will certainly know better for the next time and there is a lot to be said for that. Grab a copy of Thomas McKnight's Love Tactics and find solace in the logic and rationale behind the practical ways about going about re-emerging within the dating scene. It may be too soon right now for you to think that far in advance, but, we repeat, you will not be heartbroken forever. It's not that we're being insensitive; we unfortunately are on very familiar terms with all the pain involved in being broken hearted. There is hope for you. You will get through with this. Nurse your wounds and take some serious down time to yourself. Give yourself permission to luxuriate in some constructive wallowing. Then get mad and kick the stones. Don't worry. You'll wake up one day and something within you will have snapped. You're healed. Mon, 07 Nov 2005 09:36:37 EST http://www.love-tactics.com/broken-hearted/aching-heart.html Take steps to gain control of your aching heart. en-us Wed, 05 May 2004 14:01:35 EDT Wed, 05 May 2004 14:01:35 EDT Weblog Editor 2.0 http://www.love-tactics.com/broken-hearted/heartbroken.html Being heartbroken will not last forever. en-us Wed, 05 May 2004 14:01:35 EDT Wed, 05 May 2004 14:01:35 EDT Weblog Editor 2.0 http://www.love-tactics.com/broken-hearted/heartache.html Working through your heartache need not be as painful as you would have thought. en-us Wed, 05 May 2004 14:01:35 EDT Wed, 05 May 2004 14:01:35 EDT Weblog Editor 2.0 http://www.love-tactics.com/broken-hearted/broken-heart.html Get your broken heart whole again. en-us Wed, 05 May 2004 14:01:35 EDT Wed, 05 May 2004 14:01:35 EDT Weblog Editor 2.0