Failed breakups are by far the worst, with emotions running high and insults being thrown, it can be a very story affair.
Breaking up, as they say, is hard to do for anyone. Even if the couple has not been together for very long a breakup can be hard for both of the people and a real emotional strain. When a couple is more established and have shared years together breakups can be even more difficult as both people struggle to get used to life alone again. But, the worst times are when breakups turn into failed breakups with one or both of the former couple flying off the handle. Failed breakups are not good for anyone, and should be avoided at all costs.
First of all, no one like a scene, so don't make one. Staying calm is the key to avoiding failed breakups, even if the other person is not, you must keep it cool. when you are taking the time to talk about the breakup or are on your way to tell your partner that you no longer want to be with them, do it in a place where they feel comfortable and secure, a place where they can express themselves, but need to keep their temper in check. And if you are even thinking about doing something silly like just blowing them off or not returning their calls - forget about it, it makes you look like someone who lacks a lot of integrity and it will definitely push the other person closer to the edge.
The best way to go about it is to plan what you are going to say in advance instead of flying by the seat of your pants. You will be much more gentle if you think first about the things that you are going to say and the reasons that you are going to give. It couldn't hurt to get a few breakups tips to help guide you through this tough time. As we all know from experience, things rarely ever turn out as expected and so one has to prepare for the unexpected and try to cover all the bases. You spent a lot of time with this person and the last thing that you want is for it to turn into another sordid story of failed breakups.
Have respect for your relationships when you are in them, but also when you are out of them. They are time spent with another person and something that has helped mould you into the person that you are today, whether you like it or not.
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